Psalm 45 was taken by the Jewish understanding to be praise to the coming Messiah (as confirmed by Hebrews 1:8). I like to apply vv. 11-12 to myself, therefore, as a believer, Listen, O daughter, give attention and incline your ear; forget your people and your father’s house; then the King will desire your beauty; because He is your Lord, bow down to Him.
O, Lord, wean me of any adulation of worldly attractions; cure me of my pitiful longing for the approval and respect of mere men; remind me that I can never assure my security by my own efforts. I can never succeed in establishing my own little kingdom, where I am my own sovereign. Help me, Lord, to give up these misdirected insecurities and turn to and cling to You only, my Sovereign King. As You wed me to Yourself, I renounce all affections for my worldly, defiled past.