Psalm 45 was taken by the Jewish understanding to be praise to the coming Messiah (as confirmed by Hebrews 1:8).  I like to apply vv. 11-12 to myself, therefore, as a believer,  Listen, O daughter, give attention and incline your ear;  forget your people and your father’s house;  then the King will desire your beauty;  because He is your Lord, bow down to Him.

O, Lord, wean me of any adulation of worldly attractions;  cure me of my pitiful longing for the approval and respect of mere men;  remind me that I can never assure my security by my own efforts.  I can never succeed in establishing my own little kingdom, where I am my own sovereign.  Help me, Lord, to give up these misdirected insecurities and turn to and cling to You only, my Sovereign King.  As You wed me to Yourself,  I renounce all affections for my worldly, defiled past.